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is prevalent in detention facilities and nunneries. In adults, period of relaxation or meditation. While superficial tensions such behaviour now gets the psychiatric label "borderline may be eliminated in one session, deeper muscle tensions are personality disorder" (BPD). caused by a lifetime of sexual frustration and may require many We can now understand this behaviour according to von repetitions of lying together while using guided imagery and Urban's model of a stress-based, bio-energetically charged skin. pleasurable feelings to melt the corresponding emotional When someone is in pain, bio-energy is released together with blockages. feeling energy, and it is this pain-induced release of bio-energy Emotionally deprived children grow into adults with that keeps these self-harming teenage girls sane. Furthermore, antisocial or asocial tendencies. On one side of the scale this pain due to various known or unknown causes can be relieved manifests as violent, criminal and destructive behaviour, and on by appropriate skin contact. From this, it is easy to see that the the other as shyness, lack of confidence, self-destructive most curative method for these teenagers, as well as for others behaviour and depression. Often our sexual problems start right with emotional problems, would be prolonged skin contact in a after birth if we are bottle-fed instead of breast-fed or, worse, if safe environment to raise oxytocin levels, and especially non- we are separated from our mother for a prolonged period. This sexual, affectionate contact with someone of the opposite sex. separation tends to make it difficult later to bond with a partner. Cuddles from either parent, as well as other offerings of Even with relatively good parenting, our evolving sexuality affection, are beneficial for the emotional well-being of all causes enormous tensions and stresses while we grow up in our children regardless of gender and greatly reduce children's society, and most adults will experience emotional and health stress levels. (Note, too, that with larger families in the past, problems due to general ignorance in regard to balancing sexual there was more contact between energy. children.) Compare our Western upbringing However, in addition, it is to the way von Urban describes how beneficial to reduce the strong children were raised in some more build-up of sexual energy which Now, couples tend to have advanced native societies. He causes stress at the bio-energetic little contact during dancing, writes: "The Melanesians are level, especially in adolescents. In . . . certain that children whose sex Western society in previous times, and the music and lighting, impulses are not correctly there was a custom of boys and girls instead of being relaxing, are developed can never become holding hands or dancing on . experts in love." Sexual training is Saturday evenings for a jong time designed to produce a stress- considered to be most important for with body and hand contact. Now, induced dopamine hype. the future happiness in the love life couples tend to have little contact of their children. They encourage during dancing, and the music and lighting, instead of being relaxing, are designed to produce a stress- children to pay attention to their sexual feelings. There is a lot of touching, caressing and skin contact induced dopamine hype. between adults and children in native societies. The hands are strong radiators of bio-energy, and the most According to von Urban, anthropologist Professor Bronislaw effective equalisation is between the male right hand and the Malinowski reported that the chief of an African tribe expressed female left hand. Also, a foot massage facilitates energy his astonishment to an early explorer that Westerners do not exchange and is relaxing. A parent can easily massage the bare provide sexual training to their children. He believed this to be shoulders, neck and back of a child or teenager of the opposite more important than any other kind of training, as healthy sex, and then get a massage in return; this would be relaxing for sexual development not only provides bliss for the individual both. However, it is important for the same-sex parent to but also harmonious family and tribal life. He also said that "In participate as well so that there is no emotional separation. A some tribes of Central Africa, masturbation is taught by an special time of the week may be selected where the whole elder of the opposite sex", and to abate sexual tension "old family joins in gently massaging each other. Also, having a women quietly lay their hands on the testicles of little boys, and professional massage from a therapist of the opposite sex is an old men on the vulvas of little girls, holding them thus for some option, or cuddling in a health or social club. time". Malinowski noted that such practices were more satisfactory than masturbation. Why? Because masturbation, Reducing Stress and Tension while providing local relaxation, increases overall bodily Bio-energetic static and emotional energetic blockages are tension, while skin contact with the opposite sex reduces it. probably major factors not only with hypertension, mental Therefore, prolonged non-sexual skin contact between a boy problems and other stress-related conditions, but also in the and a girl, or a child and parent of the opposite sex, would present epidemic of hip, knee and lower back problems, leg probably be a good way to alleviate hyperactivity, attention cramps as well as gynaecological and other disorders in the deficit disorder, shyness, autism, violence, self-harm and pelvic area, including impotence and frigidity. Persistent bio- related problems. energetic static and its associated emotional blockages tend to There seems to be a complete absence of sexual and stress- cause muscle tension with permanently reduced blood, lymph related conditions in native societies described by Malinowski. and nerve supply to these areas, making them susceptible to In our society, children's sexuality is so misdirected that sexual infections, arthritis and other health deterioration. violence, rape and many forms of sexual inhibition, frustration According to the findings of von Urban and the experiences and abuse, emotional problems, mental diseases and other of couples practising Karezza, the easiest way of reducing such stress-related conditions are a frequent outcome in adult life. persistent tensions is prolonged, quiet skin and possibly sexual This shows that we could learn much from native practices. As contact with a partner of the opposite sex, basically as a long these native people could observe all varieties of loving sexual Now, couples tend to have little contact during dancing, and the music and lighting, instead of being relaxing, are designed to produce a stress- induced dopamine hype. not Reducing Stress and Tension Bio-energetic static and emotional energetic blockages are probably major factors not only with hypertension, mental problems and other stress-related conditions, but also in the present epidemic of hip, knee and lower back problems, leg cramps as well as gynaecological and other disorders in the pelvic area, including impotence and frigidity. Persistent bio- energetic static and its associated emotional blockages tend to cause muscle tension with permanently reduced blood, lymph and nerve supply to these areas, making them susceptible to infections, arthritis and other health deterioration. According to the findings of von Urban and the experiences of couples practising Karezza, the easiest way of reducing such persistent tensions is prolonged, quiet skin and possibly sexual contact with a partner of the opposite sex, basically as a long JUNE — JULY 2007 NEXUS 35 www.nexusmagazine.com