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elf Parenting DR. JOHN POLLARD To describe Self-Parenting we would first have to talk work out which way they want to go and then you act based about ‘inner conversations’. All of us are having an inner on that. conversation and for there to be a conversation there have to A parent can ask a child a question or a child can ask a be two voices. We can call one of them the ‘Inner Parent’, parent a question. You can pick any conversation and either defined by the style of parenting you have as a child. voice can be doing any one of many different things. But when You have uncles, aunts, teachers and other ‘parent’ fig- you start writing them out and looking at them you definitely ures. They can have a lot of influences on you during the see a parent voice and a child voice. The child will ask a development of your ‘Inner Parent’, butitall begins with your question or make a statementand then the parent will respond. parents, One is the voice of authority and oneis the voice of enthusiasm or energy. The Inner Child Reading Self Parenting is one way to get a fecl for inner conversations. By the time you’re through two-thirds of the book you’re recognising your inner conversations because of the way it’s laid out. The last third of the book is a work book where you do Self Parenting scssions. You sit down for 30 minutes a day and, as the Inner Parent, speak to your Inner Child and it responds in your mind and you write it down. There are two weeks of questions through which you progress in getting to know yourself. At the end of that you’ re really hearing your inner conversations. There’s a third ‘op- tional’ week where you can work out inner conflicts or plan for the future, and do so conscious of both inner voices. You know we only use 9% of our mind. But if you start listening to your inner conversations and writing them down, there’s a deeper thing beneath that. If you really know what you’re thinking and feeling you’re not unconscious, you’re happening. The thing most people don’ trealize is that they are affected by, but are oblivious to, an inner process that they don’t really know about. You resolve inner conflicts exactly as you would the same situation between an actual parent and child - or two business partners, The inner parent comes from your parents, but the inner child is your real individual self. We can call the other voice in your inner conversations the ‘Inner Child’ - who you were as a child. You still have the same dreams, energies, fantasies - the kinds of things you wanted as a kid are still part of you now. What is happening inside your mind is that your Inner Parent is parenting your Inner Child as you’re going through life. Before you do anything you have an inner conversation and the two voices The Kahunas This work arises from the Kahuna religion of Hawaii and the work of Max Freedom Long. He ‘cracked the code’ of the Kahunas -a secret verbal code that no white man was able to be involved in. In the Kahuna teachings there are three levels of self, a low,a middle and ahigh. The inner parent corresponds to what they call the middle self, and the innerchild the lower self - the ‘individual streak’. I believe there are three selves - the inner child, inner parent and inner, high self - the ‘guardian angel’. But if you practice sclf-parenting you’ll also find this third self. - 2 Self Parenting by John Pollard - $19.95 Genetic Human Studies Pub. NEXUS New Times Eight - Autumn 1989 | Parenting To describe Self-Parenting we would first have to talk about ‘inner conversations’. All of us are having an inner conversation and for there to be a conversation there have to be two voices. We can call one of them the ‘Inner Parent’, defined by the style of parenting you have as a child. You have uncles, aunts, teachers and other ‘parent’ fig- ures. They can have a lot of influences on you during the development of your ‘Inner Parent’, butitall begins with your parents, work out which way they want to go and then you act based on that. A parent can ask a child a question or a child can ask a parent a question. You can pick any conversation and either voice can be doing any one of many different things. But when you start writing them out and looking at them you definitely see a parent voice and a child voice. The child will ask a question or make a statementand then the parent will respond. One is the voice of authority and oneis the voice of enthusiasm or energy. Reading Self Parenting is one way to get a fecl for inner conversations. By the time you’re through two-thirds of the book you’re recognising your inner conversations because of the way it’s laid out. The last third of the book is a work book where you do Self Parenting sessions. You sit down for 30 minutes a day and, as the Inner Parent, speak to your Inner Child and it responds in your mind and you write it down. There are two weeks of questions through which you progress in getting to know yourself. At the end of that you’ re really hearing your inner conversations. There’s a third ‘op- tional’ week where you can work out inner conflicts or plan for the future, and do so conscious of both inner voices. You know we only use 9% of our mind. But if you start listening to your inner conversations and writing them down, there’s a deeper thing beneath that. If you really know what you’re thinking and feeling you’re not unconscious, you’re happening. The thing most people don’ trealize is that they are affected by, but are oblivious to, an inner process that they don’t really know about. You resolve inner conflicts exactly as you would the same situation between an actual parent and child - or two business partners, The inner parent comes from your parents, but the inner child is your real individual self. We can call the other voice in your inner conversations the ‘Inner Child’ - who you were as a child. You still have the same dreams, energies, fantasies - the kinds of things you wanted as a kid are still part of you now. What is happening inside your mind is that your Inner Parent is parenting your Inner Child as you’re going through life. Before you do anything you have an inner conversation and the two voices This work arises from the Kahuna religion of Hawaii and the work of Max Freedom Long. He ‘cracked the code’ of the Kahunas -a secret verbal code that no white man was able to be involved in. In the Kahuna teachings there are three levels of self, a low,a middle and ahigh. The inner parent corresponds to what they call the middle self, and the innerchild the lower self - the ‘individual streak’. I believe there are three selves - the inner child, inner parent and inner, high self - the ‘guardian angel’. But if you practice sclf-parenting you’ll also find this third self. Self Parenting by John Pollard - $19.95 Genetic Human Studies Pub. DR. JOHN POLLARD The Inner Child The Kahunas